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If the "victim" is rushing into sex, they are setting themselves up (whether the sex is with an addict or not, imo.).
This article is about sober dating, and what it should look like.
Regardless of the particular brand of sex addiction, this stage of reentry into the dating pool is critical for every sex addict.
It cannot be rushed, underestimated or faced alone anymore than the early emergency stages of recovery could be when the addict was hitting bottom.
After all, addiction tends to arrest people emotionally, and in recovery they often surface at the point from which they left off, feeling, for instance, like a 20-year old trapped in a 35-year old’s body.
Here the therapist can offer gentle, loving encouragement to try giving people their own age a chance.
When to reveal is something that the addict and their sponsor would discuss. Not everyone will understand, or some people may abuse the person's addiction.
(You might remember the silly scenario on Desperate Housewives...well, it happens.) Anyway, I believe in full disclosure..the timing is subjective.
Which is why the point you're trying to make is not a recommendation -- it's not supposed to be a scenario to begin with, and if it's happening, the help has no control in the first place.
This time around, however, the addict has a true shot at real joy – if he or she can trust the process.
Read more about healthy dating for sex addicts in my book "Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex in Recovery from Sex Addiction" and my daily meditation book "Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence"Sex addicts use behaviors rather than substances as coping mechanisms.
The group most critically in need of transparency from the sex addict - his or her potential partners - are completely ignored.
These are the people who will ultimately pay the price should the sex addict act out or "fail" in seeking a happily ever after.
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So if a wife/girlfriend complains that her husband/boyfriend wants sex all the time and is there for a "sex addict", she is wrong?